Day 8: A Women who is “Old Fashion”

I just don’t understand, women are standing up for women’s rights, yet mocking a women for being modest and staying home.

I don’t wear revealing clothes, I never have. I remember in middle school some girls walking behind me making fun of how many undershirts I had on under a shirt, covering my cleavage.

I didn’t understand it. Why was it their problem? I never said a word about their clothes.

Now as an adult I see grown people doing the same thing those girls did in to me in school. On the news, for all to see.

Hasn’t the world become so revealing that it should be nice to keep somethings, special?

I’ve seen women showing off their beautiful skin because “it’s my body.”

Sweet, good for you. It’s your life.

I don’t wear revealing clothes, because it is MY body. It’s all mine.

I don’t want anyone else seeing it, besides my husband. It’s like a piece of candy that I kept secret from my sisters, just so I can enjoy it.

Why do I have to show off my body to stand up for women’s rights?

It’s mine.

It’s not a trap I’ve fallen into because my ancestors started something.

I have my own brain to think with, that’s what you preach right?

And I think this gift of a body God has given my soul while I’m here on earth is valued.

My body is a treasure that I don’t want anyone else seeing.

Yup, I’m a believer in modesty.

Secrets keep the mind intrigued and wanting after all right?

Why would I want to let you know all that there is.

Social media is already so revealing of my feelings, parties I attend, my family life, etc.

I don’t need to show off my body.

I also believe if I want to keep a house and have a meal on the table for my husband, who works SO hard for our family… that’s our business.

But since mocking families like ours is a thing too let me just tell you.

No it’s not the 1940’s, but there is still a such thing as showing someone you love them and their time they spend away working hard is valued.

Our marriage is a team effort. I handle some things , he handles others. He helps me and I help him.Together we make our house a home.

Yes I stay at home, because WE decided to have a child and she is OUR child to raise, not the responsibility of others.

Not the teacher, the day care worker, Grandma, Nanna, Auntie, Uncle. No it’s the parents job.

Not to mention, look at the wages offered and the cost of childcare. They put families in debt.

So, why is it the smart thing for both parents to go earn a paycheck only to give all of it to childcare, plus a percentage of the others check?

Hmmm, is a women like me really “old fashion” or is it just a bother that we don’t fit your mold.

Stop judging. Families/ other women do what they have to for THEIR family, and it’s none of your business, it really isn’t.

Cheer on decency, it’s a beautiful thing this world needs more of.

Cheer on working hard.

Cheer on working together.

Cheer them on.

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Simple Meal Planning

Okay y’all. Let me make myself clear.

I’m lazy when it comes to meal planning, because… well if you’re a mom, someone who is working and going to school, or a business owner reading this I don’t need to explain.

This week is my “no spend” week.

Meaning, I HATE grocery shopping and it’s winter, so you never know when the roads are going to be crappy.

Which leads me to thinking I’m gonna keep my little hiney at home. Put my money I WOULD spend in my savings and stretch my groceries out until I have to go.

Which leads me to doing the following steps

1. Look at what I have in my pantry, fridge, freezer.

2. Come up with meals using those things.

3. Write down a “menu” that has no specific days per meal on a magnetic dry erase board.

Which looks like this.

4. When it comes time to cook I choose one meal and look and see if I need to prep something for the next day- like if I decide I want to make Shepard pie, I would lay out some ground venison.

I erase what I cook as I go, day seven rolls around, I’ll look again.

Now what do I do as far as groceries? Let me explain this to you very sloppy, yet simply

This week, I’m at the end of my stock, so I would look in my kitchen to see what I have + sales and create my grocery list and meal plan based off of that.

TIP: I also leave $10- $20 in my groceries budget to stock up or for a great deal.

I.e.

I make a lot of chili in the winter, I will buy 3 cans/bags/what ever that’s non perishable. Use one now and the other two for later.

chicken broth is on sale for $1, I wouldn’t grab just the one I need I would grab 3. Butter is on sale buy one get one free again I wouldn’t buy just one I would but 4 and put the other two in the freezer for later.

And because I know your going to ask.

My grocery budget for the month is $425. This includes any and all consumables, diapers, wipes, toilet cleaners, laundry soap, normal food etc.

I was at $300, but the cost of living has gone up so I had to adjust.

I try to actually only go big bulk shopping once a month because I live so far from a grocery store and then my husband grabs things as needed on his way home from work.

If you live near a store, cut yourself some slack and break down your budget into a weekly budget.

Anyways, that’s basically it. I hope this helps. πŸ™‚ Any questions ask!

You Can Live On A Lot Less

Sitting in the living room of my Great Aunt Edna had me at peace in the middle of the emotional roller coaster I had been on.

It was familiar, I spent so much time doing the exact same things I was watching my daughter do. Everything had changed, but nothing had changed.

My favorite scent of wet paper towel and wood smoke with the hint of just pure cleaness still lingered. The recliner I had fought to sit in so many times still sat in it’s same ole’ spot.

It was my second home in a way. I guess many others in my family and, well anyone who had ever been to my Aunts had the same feelings when they stepped in her door way.

That is just my Aunt Edna, she always makes you feel warm,welcomed,and loved.

I admire her in so many ways and sitting in that living room with her was worth more than any gold or rubbies.

This visit had a lot of meaning though. I could tell my Aunt had a lot to say to me.

“You can live on a lot less Tashanna.” She says to me kind of out of the blue.

“Oh I know Aunt Edna I don’t have a lot of things people say they need…”

I say continuing to tell her about how I don’t have anything but antenna for TV or internet like most young folks and I budget everything.

She shakes her head

” No, what I mean shanny is… ” Shanny has always been a nick name only belonging to myself and my cousin Shannon.

She continued to tell me this story.

There was some folks that lived in a shack. They grew up working for everything they had. Dusk to dawn. They didn’t know what money really was.

They lived in a little shack, they’re counter was made of old vanilla waffer boxes and plaster. And that is what they had for a kitchen counters.

They had a refrigerator, but they didn’t have electricity, or know that they needed to plug it in. My cousin brought them canned biscuits one day and she just sat them on the counter.

The lady told my cousin when she came back they just went “poof”. That’s how little they knew about the modern-day world.

My cousin visited them up until they passed away, she was good and befriended them . A young person would have thought them to be strange. But they were happy, and they were normal, just hadn’t known anything outside of that they grew up doing to get by.

“That’s what I mean by people can live with less than what they think. My Aunt finished saying.

I finally got what my Aunt was telling me.

I needed to humble myself and would be happier if I stopped chasing material things and just loved what God had blessed me with.

Life And It’s Changes

I’ve been silent for a while. I know some of you are wondering what happened and some of you know.

July was very hard, my Grandfather was diagnosed with a fast acting pancreatic cancer. As soon as I heard the news I was axious to go home to Georgia and just be with him.

I didn’t know how, seeing how every flight had been around 1,000 dollars. I had my daughter to think about, and who I couldn’t leave behind. My husband couldn’t leave his job without losing it. Emotions were everywhere.

That’s when God stepped in.

My older sister who lives in a different state calls me up. She found a flight that aligned with hers to Chattanooga Tennessee, it was only $632 for my daughter and I, but I had to leave the next day, find someone to bring me to the airport or pick my vehicle up for me.

Again God stepped in

Our friend Nathan showed up to help out offering to pick our vehicle up.

We arrived down to Georgia and the instant familiar mountains, curves, and humidity hugged me, bringing on a comfort I had not felt in a long time.

The next day we went straight to my grandfathers house, the house that grew me. The place I learned a lot about hard work and being greatful for what you have.

Not a inch of the house, the property went without some story from my childhood.

My grandfather had been pestured so many times to cut open a chestnut 🌰where the big chestnut tree use to stand tall.

Neighbored by the trailor where he stayed when we lived in his house.

I use to wait for him in the driveway. He would get off of working at the old Clakesville Mill, wearing his overhalls and caring his blue lunch pail.

My sister and I would play in the sand waiting until then, then go around the back of his trailor. He always had a Moonpie πŸŒ› waiting.

I liked the chocolate ones of course. My sister Brenda would go and pet his leapord . We would sit and talk to him and Betty, she was his girlfriend.

They would ask us about school, and have us read something. Making us feel so smart, and specifial.

Then he would get his auto harps out and play for us. He let us us play with one of his older ones. We would play and sing old hyms like “I’ll Fly Away”

All these memories and going into the house knowing this was the end in this world, put a huge weight on my chest. It was so hard to bare.

My Aunt Teresa was their,she embraced us with a warm hug.

she has always been so beautiful, kind, gentle, and dear to me…my hear sank with how much all of this showed on her.

Brenda and I opened the old screen door that my daddy had built so many years ago and momma painted white with blue trim. It was still marked with the hole we put in it.

My paw was sitting in his recliner, I was half expecting the usual laughter of joy that always had greated us. It wasn’t there. He was just laying there trying hard to keep his eyes open.

This was the very first time he got to meet my sweet little girl, who’s presents helped everyone in the room at that moment.

I went over and kissed his cheek after my sister. He wanted to hold Casidy, being in a strange place she of course didn’t go, but sat studying him while eating her cheese it’s.

Paw finally getting up energy to talk said “I recon’ I’ll be going to meet the good Lord soon. ” Then continued into prayer thanking God for bringing us to be with him.

My heart broke even more, reality was setting in, my Paw had the same look many of the residents I had cared for as a CNA had in their last day, it upset me .

Though we all know one day we will be their and our loved ones too, I still had never thought to see that look on one of MY loved ones.

Paw finished praying, I went over to attempted getting Casidy to hug him singing “I love you, a bushel and a peck, a bushel and a peck, and a hug around the neck. ” it worked she hugged him and giggled about it too, proceeding to “tickle tickle” Paw.

Paw laughed, and said “I love you. ”

And for the first time ever my little girl said those three words clear as day “I love you. ”

The rest of the time we sat and watched him sleep, and when he woke up with a bit of strength Paw just repeated over and over looking us all straight in the eye “I love you. ” those words with his voice are the greatest gift my Paw has ever given me. I hope it stays with me for ever.

This world has all of us young folks so busy and with big eyes for the shiny things in life and selfishness, that we are forgetting what is really important.

I’m guilty of it…

During my visit my Cousin Forest who is older told me a story about a time he, my grandfather, and great grandpaw Bryson. He ended it with telling me “We had nothing, no vehicles just horse and buggy, no computers, no phones likes today, just each other and love. We made time for each other and spent life with each other, nothing means more then that.”

Now, we have phones that don’t have a conversation going with the neighbors listening but we don’t call.

We have vehicles, but don’t visit

We have computers, but don’t even take the time to send a message.

Life is changing, and my visit with the old timers in my family really woke me up more than ever.

I need to change, we all do, we all need to learn to love again and what that means.

But thats just this redheads opinion.

Have a great week y’all

One of the last pictures I have with mu Grandfather taken in 2011, I was 17.

I miss him

Crock Pot Venison Stew Perfect For A Chilly Day

It’s a little chilli today, feels a bit like fall πŸπŸ‚

We all woke up with a cold too, so I thought some warm venison stew,

sounded perfect for our bellies tonight for supper.

You will need:

2 pounds venison cubed up like for stew obviously (use beef or bison if you don’t have venison)
1 tsp Salt
1 tsp pepper
1 medium onion, chopped chunky

1 TBS of dried garlic, minced garlic..
32oz of broth, one part beef the other vegtable
2 Tablespoons Worcestershire sauce
2 cups carrots cut julian or frozen
4-6 golden potatoes,cut into chunks pieces

1 cup frozen corn
2 tablespoon Italian seasoning
1 teaspoon dried parsley
1 bay leaf
11/2 tsp of tumeric

Combine in the crock

Mix
1/4 cup flour or two TBS of corn starch
1/4 cup of cold water

or milk and set aside seprate

Set on high for 6 hours, the last 30 min add in the flour

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Two Meals 4 Chicken Breast

Need to meal prep for the weekend?

All you need is a few ingredients.

4 chicken breast πŸ”

4 bell peppers

3 banana peppers

4 tomatoes πŸ…

1 onion

Diced butternut squash

Salt

Pepper

Garlic

Parmesan

Italian seasoning

Ababo seasoning

Oranges 🍊

Redwine Vinager

Olive oil

Cole slaw

Cranberries

Meal 1:

I sliced 2 of each veggie , drizzled them with red wine vinegar, salt, black pepper, and garlic.

Baked them in the oven for 20 min at 350Β°F on the top wraxk of your oven

Under the veggies I also baked the chicken for 30 minutes.

I sliced two chicken breast into strips, sprinkled them with Mrs. Dash original seasoning and drizzled olive oil on them

I surved that with a side of cole slaw which is just chopped up cabbage,carrots,celary, mixed with Cole slaw dressing and topped with dried cranberries.

Meal 2

While meal 1 was cooking I diced up the rest of the veggies and chicken along with one onion

I cooked the chicken first in my cast iron pan with a little olive oil and ababo seasoning.

Then on the day eaten I added in the vegetables with a little bit of Italian seasoning.

*don’t store these already combined and cooked.. Itll be gross

When that was finished I made angel hair pasta.

Get a rabid boil of water and a little milk.

Add pasta until cooked

Drain

Sprinkle with with garlic and Parmesan cheese .

Then top them the veggies and chicken

Surved with diced butternut squash drizzled with honey,oranges,and raspberry-leaf tea to drink.

Storing

Since this was just for two day prep everything went in my Anchor containors individually and in the fridge, then when ate heated up quick in the skillet or oven.

FRUGALLY Healthy On A Budget : Challenge Accepted.

Hey guys,

So time and time again I have heard “I can nor afford to eat healthy. ”

I took that as a challenge and the challenge was excepted! I am going to PROVE you can buy healthy foods and not break the bank.

I went to our most costly grocery store in our area and shopped, just for you spending $59.13 of my budget and spent it just in healthy foods.

Here is the list. ( not all is shown in the video below, my fualt , sorry)

Apple Cranberry Juice

2 1/2 gal Whole milk

2 blocks of cheese πŸ§€

1 16 slice american slice cheese πŸ§€

1 16 ozCottage cheese

2 cans of green beans

Can of mixed vegetables

Can of Black beans

Can of Kidney Beans

4 bags multi grain and whole grain bagels

1 head of Lettuce

1 bag Cole slaw

1 jar Cole slaw dressing

1 Cucumber

10 ears of corn on the cob 🌽

2 lb Grapes πŸ‡

3lb Apples 🍎

2.54 lb of Bananas 🍌

3lbs of cherries πŸ’

2 lb ( 2) Big Beef Tomatoes πŸ…

2 fresh baked Italian loaf bread 🍞

Natural polish sausage

2 6pack all natural drum sticks

2 pachages of cured diced ham

2 bags of frozen broccoli

 

So I am all about being 100% honest

when I said in the video I spent a little more because I have a family of 3..and shopped for 3-4 weeks… Here is what I meant.

I bought the quick junk food- 6 frozen πŸ•Pizza , 2 banquet meals, 4 snack boxes ofpizza rolls, and waffles…for our days I know we will not be getting home + diapers, allergie pills, paper plates.

Making my total grocery bill

Why? Because… honestly …I do not feel like heating up my house to meal prep πŸ˜‚

I’ll save that for the 20Β° below freezing temperatures , not the OMG it’s 82Β° πŸ”₯ in the UP of Michigan days.

Anyways my tips are

1. Keep inventory of your kitchen

2. Make your grocery list according to the adds

3. Use coupons, savings cards, and apps that will help ger your money back.

4. Keep a well stocked pantry with staples

5. Pre cook meats and break them up into meals, cutting and sectioning them

6. Remember less is more, but fill your plate with mostly vegetables.

Know your portion sizes for meats, produce, and dairy.

Have a great week all,

Shanna