A Women who is “Old Fashion”

I just don’t understand, women are standing up for women’s rights, yet mocking a women for being modest and staying home.

I don’t wear revealing clothes, I never have. I remember in middle school some girls walking behind me making fun of how many undershirts I had on under a shirt, covering my cleavage.

I didn’t understand it. Why was it their problem? I never said a word about their clothes.

Now as an adult I see grown people doing the same thing those girls did in to me in school. On the news, for all to see.

Hasn’t the world become so revealing that it should be nice to keep somethings, special?

I’ve seen women showing off their beautiful skin because “it’s my body.”

Sweet, good for you. It’s your life.

I don’t wear revealing clothes, because it is MY body. It’s all mine.

I don’t want anyone else seeing it, besides my husband. It’s like a piece of candy that I kept secret from my sisters, just so I can enjoy it.

Why do I have to show off my body to stand up for women’s rights?

It’s mine.

It’s not a trap I’ve fallen into because my ancestors started something.

I have my own brain to think with, that’s what you preach right?

And I think this gift of a body God has given my soul while I’m here on earth is valued.

My body is a treasure that I don’t want anyone else seeing.

Yup, I’m a believer in modesty.

Secrets keep the mind intrigued and wanting after all right?

Why would I want to let you know all that there is.

Social media is already so revealing of my feelings, parties I attend, my family life, etc.

I don’t need to show off my body.

I also believe if I want to keep a house and have a meal on the table for my husband, who works SO hard for our family… that’s our business.

But since mocking families like ours is a thing too let me just tell you.

No it’s not the 1940’s, but there is still a such thing as showing someone you love them and their time they spend away working hard is valued.

Our marriage is a team effort. I handle some things , he handles others. He helps me and I help him.Together we make our house a home.

Yes I stay at home, because WE decided to have a child and she is OUR child to raise, not the responsibility of others.

Not the teacher, the day care worker, Grandma, Nanna, Auntie, Uncle. No it’s the parents job.

Not to mention, look at the wages offered and the cost of childcare. They put families in debt.

So, why is it the smart thing for both parents to go earn a paycheck only to give all of it to childcare, plus a percentage of the others check?

Hmmm, is a women like me really “old fashion” or is it just a bother that we don’t fit your mold.

Stop judging. Families/ other women do what they have to for THEIR family, and it’s none of your business, it really isn’t.

Cheer on decency, it’s a beautiful thing this world needs more of.

Cheer on working hard.

Cheer on working together.

Cheer them on.

Love Each Other

Love each other and a stranger.

Love each other be slow to anger.

Love each other when the days are tough, when the roof is leaking.

Love each other with words you’re speaking.

Love each other like you’re afraid too.

Love each other even those few.

Love each other in the dusk and in the dawn.

Love each other without the arrow drawn.

Love each other, love every colour.

Love each other like a infants mother.

Love each other and their differences.

Love each other without defences.

Love each other with an passion that is rare to see.

For loving each other is the key.

It’s fall

We are going out to our camp today. We have no real service out there, it’s a way we unplug and reconnect with each other.

I only have a quick moment. So here goes my gibberish.

Sun rays hitting the lake with a glimmering light.Breath in and feel the cool hair hit your lungs.

It’s fall.

My little girl is running around, her red hair catching the sun in a way that makes her glow like an angel.

Hot drinks and warm comfort foods hugging us with the love that went into making them.

It’s fall.

Orange vest on with a breeze curessing our skin, gun in hand ready to shoot a meal.

Leaves dancing, twirling, and changinfinot beautiful colors in their last days.

It’s fall.

Curling up with a blanket and a book that may lull us into a different world.

Smells of wood smoke and coffee, pumkin and apple, creating warming memories

It’s fall.

It’s fall and everyone better enjoy it.

Take it all in.

Sit in the quiet a feel all that’s around.

Become friends with God again.

Have a long deep conversation with your loved ones.

Appreciate the beauty that surrounds you.

Find your peace of mind.

Read a heart felt letter, book, poem.

Do something kind for a stranger

Sit around a campfire, think of your blessings

Make these days count and make them worth something, before the excuse of winter and the bitter cold comes in.

There it is. Just thoughts..of fall

What’s On My Mind And Heart Today? My Papaw

A lot of you don’t know why I’ve been so quiet. It’s because I’ve lost to many in a year. And I feel lost without those close relationships. One of the closest jut happened…

September 8th my mom called me while I was at work. I didn’t answer of course, my boss pays me to work at work.

I had my grandpa on my mind. Maybe I should have him come in for a meal, at least I would know he would eat…I didn’t text him.

Later on a customer bought a left over Turkey tag.

“Hey, I thought, I’ll buy one too and then I can go snag Papaw and take him on a ride with me.” And I did.

I got off of work that evening and called my mom back.

“Have you heard from Papaw?” She asked

“No, I am going to be going there tomorrow.” I had plans to take him out and get some of his shopping needs taken care of.

“Can you check on him? He hasn’t been answering my calls it goes straight to voice mail.”

So I drove over to his house, walked in and found my Papaw on the floor.

Thinking he had fell I rushed over ready to make a joke about it and help him up.

When I touched his shoulder it was cold, then I noticed his blue color.

My papaw was one of my best friends. He always showed up. I don’t get much company, my Papaw was my company.

People just don’t visit. My papaw did.

He was the one I walked to about hunting, my confusions, our family, old times, good old shows, the weather, just about anything.

With papaw you didn’t expect any drama to come from anything you said to him.

He always showed up. To my cheerleading events, my tonsils being taken, when I had my baby girl, birthday parties if I had them.

My grandfather on my Dad’s side died last year. Around the same time of year, my Papaw as soon as I got home, came asking “Are you alright girl?”.

Papaw is the one who introduced me to my live of the outdoors. He would always take us fishing, then take to get a big banana split. Nancy town, in Georgia was one of our regular spot to go to.

I miss him, it’s so hard. I’ve not been in the mood to go hunt really, I just think, if I do get something..who will I tell that would actually care and be proud?

My papaw has always cheered me on, just a month ago when I told him I was going for my Personal Trainer certification, he said “Don’t forget about me when you become a millionar.”

I won’t ever forget my Papaw.

I planted tomatoes for him, he loved tomatoes. I took and ripped those plants up, no point in growing somethimy no one else would eat. They was for my papaw. The last time I saw him in person I took him a bag,he had a hard time eating them, but he was happy.

He would set his mind to something and just do it. He would say “It’s all in your head.” “Mind of matter, if you dont mind it don’t matter.”

If someone needed something, he would just do it, if he could.

If he wanted something, he would do it, so he gained his Masters degree.

I don’t know, I just want to get in the car and go visit him.

My mom asked me to write his obituary, I wrote a little something at the end.
Tall and gruff the big bear seemed, but he was as gentle as can be. A big man with eyes filled with wonder and joy. He made the world smile and the leaves waved good bye, as he walked towards a new adventure filled with an everlasting love.

The leaves waved good bye…

The 7th is when they suspect my Papaw passing.

I was out at camp with my husband, I didn’t feel right and I couldn’t tell you why. My husband’s noticed and asked.

I remember looking at a maple tree it’s leaves had turned red and was shaking in the wind, that line popped up in my head..what I was going to use it for I didn’t know, until..my momma asked me to write his obituary.

Because of the feeling I had that day, and the thoughts I had that Sunday at work, and the feelings I felt the moment I found him.

I have no doubt my God is real, angels are real, and my Papaw still looks down on me from heaven.

I just wish I could hug him. And listen to him fuss at me for dying my hair, bacause I know he would.

So, depressing it may be, all that’s on my mind is my Papaw. No one wants me to talk about him because it depressed them.

I just want to share his life with others, he isn’t forgotten.

He taught me and others around him so much. And made so many laugh.

I hope you remember when someone is sharing something about a loved one that’s no longer here, listen and soak in that story.

That story is how their memory isn’t forgotten. No one wants to be forgotten.

Bless you Babies

Bless you babies and the love you bring.

Lift your weeping head and close your eyes, listen to the song birds sing to each other the song of life.

Lessons of love and kindness are all around. You have the right to wear the crown.

The crown of happiness is not far to find, just look up and praise the maker if the sun and sky.

Bless you babies and the love you bring.

Breath in the air and let it caress the miracle string in which you sing. Realize you are the reason for someone smiling.

Gather up all that is good and make for yourself a new pair of glasses. People are ugly, but what you may see in the world is what leaves many in awe.

Bless you babies and the love you bring

Go sit in the sunshine and feel the hug of the sun and the kiss of the breeze.

Mountains are hard to climb, but remember big things are meant to be conquered.

Feeling small is a strength of humility you own and others lack. Shine bright with that fact.

Bless you babies and the love you bring.

Open your eyes and watch the dandelion dance in the wind. Small is the seed that travels so far and plants it’s beauty in the yard of many. Some mistake it as weed. While others recognize the strength of the healer.

Bless you babies and love you bring.

I hope know how loved you are. I know right now things are hard. I want the pain you feel to be taken.

Stranger you may be, but my heart and arms are wide open with nothing that is meant to harm you.

I want you to know how perfect you are. Please don’t take life for granted. Bless you babies and the life you bring.

My Grocery Shopping Process

I’m going to make this a quick and easy step by step without a long drawn out story or explanation…

Ain’t no body go time for THAT, so let’s get to the point here.

*Note I have our grocery budget of $150 in mind through out this whole process.

  • Step 1: I look and make two list. What meals I have and what we are out of. Oh! And this includes food + anything else we use for hygene, cleaning, etc.
  • Step 2: I use the flipp app and my stores online website/mailed adds and search for those things in my list that are on sale! I will then list the price and ideal adding as I go. Unless I know an iteam can be found cheaper else where. ( I know I can get bread at our local econo foods for 89 cents)
  • Step 3: I ask what foods my husband is craving and take into account what my toddler has been asking for or run some of her favorite meals by her. I’ll look at the sales ads. Then I will find what I need to make those meals and add them.
  • Step 4: I’ll look at meat and produce in adds and add only what’s on sale at the cheapest.
  • Step 5: I check and make sure my list adds up to only $100 or less.
  • Step 6: One store has a card I can clip digital coupon too, so I do that. The other has a “Super” coupon that is in their sales add I cut that out and put it in my wallet along with any other coupons and my list.
  • Step 7: I go grocery shopping

Here is explanations I was saving.

My list is in my phone with the flipp app and on paper, I take both and sometime forget one..you know which.

Where does the $50 go in my budget?

Well 3 things

Knowing exactly where the sales items are usually in my store I make a point to look. These iteams usually arent included in the add.

I also looking for stock up iteams that are on sale, especially if it’s canned goods.

And during summer/fall we go out to our camp a lot, spend a good bit of time getting wood, and hunting. So we need quick grab n go, grilling,or easy prepared food/drink. During the winter my husband and I have a “date” where we get our favorite foods and watch a movie on the weekend.

Do I store hop?

Sometimes, the stores in town are close enough that it doesn’t bother me too if something like meat is on sale cheaper.

Lastly the irrelevant, my grammar are good is. I have to remind y’all from time to time. 🙂

Comment and let me know what’s on your mind about this.

Simple Meal Planning

Okay y’all. Let me make myself clear.

I’m lazy when it comes to meal planning, because… well if you’re a mom, someone who is working and going to school, or a business owner reading this I don’t need to explain.

This week is my “no spend” week.

Meaning, I HATE grocery shopping and it’s winter, so you never know when the roads are going to be crappy.

Which leads me to thinking I’m gonna keep my little hiney at home. Put my money I WOULD spend in my savings and stretch my groceries out until I have to go.

Which leads me to doing the following steps

1. Look at what I have in my pantry, fridge, freezer.

2. Come up with meals using those things.

3. Write down a “menu” that has no specific days per meal on a magnetic dry erase board.

Which looks like this.

4. When it comes time to cook I choose one meal and look and see if I need to prep something for the next day- like if I decide I want to make Shepard pie, I would lay out some ground venison.

I erase what I cook as I go, day seven rolls around, I’ll look again.

Now what do I do as far as groceries? Let me explain this to you very sloppy, yet simply

This week, I’m at the end of my stock, so I would look in my kitchen to see what I have + sales and create my grocery list and meal plan based off of that.

TIP: I also leave $10- $20 in my groceries budget to stock up or for a great deal.

I.e.

I make a lot of chili in the winter, I will buy 3 cans/bags/what ever that’s non perishable. Use one now and the other two for later.

chicken broth is on sale for $1, I wouldn’t grab just the one I need I would grab 3. Butter is on sale buy one get one free again I wouldn’t buy just one I would but 4 and put the other two in the freezer for later.

And because I know your going to ask.

My grocery budget for the month is $425. This includes any and all consumables, diapers, wipes, toilet cleaners, laundry soap, normal food etc.

I was at $300, but the cost of living has gone up so I had to adjust.

I try to actually only go big bulk shopping once a month because I live so far from a grocery store and then my husband grabs things as needed on his way home from work.

If you live near a store, cut yourself some slack and break down your budget into a weekly budget.

Anyways, that’s basically it. I hope this helps. 🙂 Any questions ask!

Anniversary Weekend Pictures.

Friday through Sunday my husband and I stayed out at our family camp. My sister in-law and her family stayed with us. It was a break we all needed.

The day started with a snow that had me mad – because I don’t have a bow to hunt with during bow season – but anxious to get my husband out in his stand.

But we needed food for the house and camp. So off we went.

One of the things I love about living where we do is, we have miles of nothing but the big woods between towns, it’s beautiful and less stressful than a the big towns and cities.

Friday night my husband and I road in with our daughter after shopping for all of our splurge foods.

I love taking the road in, it’s always breath taking during the four seasons.

Saturday we took a stroll out to my deer blind, check the camera. Hunting season has really become our Family activity.

I had to see how my mock scrape was doing too, I need to give it a little longer before I decide, if you would like to TRY this, comment below and I’ll hook you up. 😉

Shortly after I shot my first grouse!

Perfect head shot, my husband got two, and now together we have five.

Enough for a meal!

Our first wedding anniversary weekend was a success I would have to say.

You Can Live On A Lot Less

Sitting in the living room of my Great Aunt Edna had me at peace in the middle of the emotional roller coaster I had been on.

It was familiar, I spent so much time doing the exact same things I was watching my daughter do. Everything had changed, but nothing had changed.

My favorite scent of wet paper towel and wood smoke with the hint of just pure cleaness still lingered. The recliner I had fought to sit in so many times still sat in it’s same ole’ spot.

It was my second home in a way. I guess many others in my family and, well anyone who had ever been to my Aunts had the same feelings when they stepped in her door way.

That is just my Aunt Edna, she always makes you feel warm,welcomed,and loved.

I admire her in so many ways and sitting in that living room with her was worth more than any gold or rubbies.

This visit had a lot of meaning though. I could tell my Aunt had a lot to say to me.

“You can live on a lot less Tashanna.” She says to me kind of out of the blue.

“Oh I know Aunt Edna I don’t have a lot of things people say they need…”

I say continuing to tell her about how I don’t have anything but antenna for TV or internet like most young folks and I budget everything.

She shakes her head

” No, what I mean shanny is… ” Shanny has always been a nick name only belonging to myself and my cousin Shannon.

She continued to tell me this story.

There was some folks that lived in a shack. They grew up working for everything they had. Dusk to dawn. They didn’t know what money really was.

They lived in a little shack, they’re counter was made of old vanilla waffer boxes and plaster. And that is what they had for a kitchen counters.

They had a refrigerator, but they didn’t have electricity, or know that they needed to plug it in. My cousin brought them canned biscuits one day and she just sat them on the counter.

The lady told my cousin when she came back they just went “poof”. That’s how little they knew about the modern-day world.

My cousin visited them up until they passed away, she was good and befriended them . A young person would have thought them to be strange. But they were happy, and they were normal, just hadn’t known anything outside of that they grew up doing to get by.

“That’s what I mean by people can live with less than what they think. My Aunt finished saying.

I finally got what my Aunt was telling me.

I needed to humble myself and would be happier if I stopped chasing material things and just loved what God had blessed me with.